Week 11 (Life) Goal: Forgiveness


ForgivenessForgiveness is a topic that elicits a lot of emotion and resentment. That's because someone has done something you consider bad enough to require forgiveness. This week, we are going to focus on the act of forgiving someone who has hurt you.  

Although it may be uncomfortable, begin the process of forgiveness with someone in your life. I’m not going to attempt to define forgiveness for you; it means something different to each individual. But I would like to share with you the reasons forgiveness is important.

Forgiveness in general is a decision to let go of resentment and anger toward someone who wronged you. What makes forgiveness difficult is that, most of the time, we do not feel forgiveness is earned or deserved.

Here are helpful tips from the article, “How to Forgive” http://howtoforgive.com/articles/how-to-forgive/

  1. Forgiveness is not about them, it’s about you.
  2. You are not the judge.
  3. Our capacity to forgive is directly linked to our capacity to have love and empathy. 
  4. “Being hurt” is a lousy excuse for not living up to your true potential.
  5. Sometimes we have to give ourselves what we wish someone else would give us. 

www.HowtoForgive.com is an amazing website that makes forgiving powerful. Not just for the person you forgive, but for the control it gives you over your future. The article “How to Forgive” goes on to say, “Don’t do it another day. You have the ability to forgive. Give that gift to yourself. Create what you want in your life. Let go of what you don’t. If that person benefits from your forgiveness, so be it. You are saving yourself.”

Sometimes one of the biggest barriers to forgiving someone is that the person may not know he or she did anything wrong – or might not care. The article on how to forgive says, “The wonderful thing about forgiveness is that the other person’s cooperation is not necessary for us to forgive them. We don’t need their permission, admittance of the wrong, or even a conversation with them to release the bitterness from our hearts. You get to decide how you are going to respond. You may have had no choice over what they did to you, but you definitely have a choice now how you’re going to think and feel about it.” Take the power to handle the reaction back into your hands.