Life is busy, and it sometimes feels impossible to keep in touch with old friends.
Between social media, e-mail and text messaging, we let months go by without picking up a phone and having a live conversation with a close friend. You might think the convenience of the above methods outweighs the act of dialing a phone and actually talking, but this is not the case. Make it a priority to nurture your dearest relationships with conversation.
Social media can be deceiving. Although it might appear that life is “peachy” over Facebook, most of the time a good chat with a friend is necessary to process the little bumps and trials we face in life. It is necessary to having real conversations and a real relationship.
This week’s Be Better Challenge is to choose two friends whom you want to reach out to during the week. Take a few minutes to call them; text messages do not count. We are confident this phone call will bring joy into your life, and it likely will brighten their day, too. The phone calls do not have to be long, but try your best not to be distracted. Be present and appreciate the genuine conversation.
Remember that Be Better donates $2 every time you document the completion of a Be Better Challenge. We do understand that this one might be difficult to document. So feel free to just post a picture of your closest friends with the hash-tag #bebetter52
You might be wondering if small talk is just as good as deep conversation over the phone. According to Matthias Mehl, Ph.D., a psychologist at the University of Arizona who studies the topic, he says people are happier when they engage in deep conversation. He says “substantive conversation seemed to hold the key to happiness for two main reasons: both because human beings are driven to find and create meaning in their lives, and because we are social animals who want and need to connect with other people.”
Nurture your friendships this week by making the phone calls necessary to connect through conversation.