The Importance of Reflection before Resolution

The Importance of Reflection before Resolution

When I started the Be Better movement, my goal was to simplify self-improvement by tackling one challenge at a time. It allowed me to be focused and present, not always thinking, “Do more, be more.” I felt proud at the end of each week that I had accomplished the challenge and, most importantly, I had donated to a worthy charity as a result.

Unfortunately, as a small business owner and new mom, it has been a challenge to feel like I have actually done enough work for the day--similar to when you are a student studying for a big exam yet always feeling as if you could be studying more. But I have found when we live in a constant state of noticing what we failed to do, we never give ourselves kudos for all the jobs we did do extremely well . This week’s #bebetter52 challenge is to reflect on the past year before jumping into the new year ahead. Give credit where credit is due. Pat yourself on the back, sit in the moment of happiness and be grateful. Feel empowered by the challenges you faced.

The year 2016 will be remembered by most of the nation for its emotionally charged election and increasingly violent world, but to me it was the best year of my life. Sitting down to write the ups and downs of the last 365 days, I cannot help but become teary-eyed in complete gratitude.

When the clock struck midnight on New Year’s Eve 2016, Cory and I were in the emergency waiting room of St. Joseph’s Hospital. My blood pressure had spiked on the way to a New Year’s Eve party. Since my due date was only days away, we knew it had to be checked. Comically, we sat waiting for the ball to drop in the ER before admission so that the insurance bill would hit our 2016 deductible instead of our 2015. Within an hour, we were cleared to return to our cozy little home because baby girl had checked out great.

The first week of the new year was spent in complete anticipation. At night, sitting in the finished nursery, I dreamed about what our daughter would look like.  In the months to follow, as I cradled my nursing baby during the nights, I remembered those moments before she was born with sacredness. She is now almost one, and I cannot imagine life without her. Each passing month of 2016, she hit milestones and transformed herself into the sweet, talkative and silly personality she is today.

So when I am asked to reflect on 2016, I feel nothing but pure gratitude. Although 2016 has been the best year of my life, it has also been a year of trauma and healing. During the process of completing the 20 questions by The Art of Simple, I realized that in 2016 I grew more physically, emotionally and spiritually than I had in any of my prior 34 years.

When asked to create a phrase or statement that describes this past year for you, here is mine:

2016 has been about the beautiful miracle of having a baby, our journey into parenthood and my commitment to constant healing and gratitude.